who broke your heart during pandemic erase his memories from mind

Nowadays, breakups and heartbreaks are common in 2020. In the current scenario, there are celebrations for breakups. So life is tough to sort out the issue, because due to lockdown, we can't go to meet our friends, so suffering alone is too hard on the mind. It's like a nightmare without people around you to cope with the sorrowful event.

 I have amazing friends, but due to COVID-19, my friends were not able to meet me. So I could not take care of the person from my mind. 

In non-Corona time, my friend used to come to my home, later, we would go out and have lunch, then if the weather was cloudy. We will go for a long drive on my bike out. Then we would love to have a cup of chocolate ice-cream. But she would do everything she could to take my mind off gloominess, and make me laugh till my stomach hurt. My closest friends are so caring about me and protective. They make sure to cheer me up whenever I m sad.

It is a universal experience that comes with intense emotional feelings and distress.

It takes a major emotional toll on mental wellness and in turn, it affects your physical health also.

This is the toughest phase were of everyone's life and if you can't handle the situation, you can't move on in life. So get up early morning, turn on your favorite music, go for a walk, or do some physical exercises. If you're comfortable with yoga, open your eyes and meditate. Which gives great relief during heart breakup.

NOTE: Never do headstand, forward bending asanas, doing breathing exercise with eyes open. 

              and never listen to breakup songs. because suicidal thoughts and suicides may increase

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so take precautions.

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Spike on suicidal thoughts & suicides during the pandemic

 The number of suicidal thoughts increased during this pandemic due to joblessness and insecurities.

• COVID Effects on Businessmen: 

1. A businessman consumed poison, after facing loss in the catering business which he was running, canteens in 3 IT companies and faced financial loss. 
2. Another business person hanged himself because he has brought cabs on finance and he could not pay the EMI, bear the family expenses also.
3. the mobile shop owner was given a strict warning by police people for not closing shop on time, both the father and son died.

• COVID Effects on Elderly people: 

An elderly man of age 70, tried but unsuccessful attempt because he is alone here and his children are in the USA, due to a lock-down maidservant stopped coming, he felt alone.

1.  The couple who stays in Hyderabad and their children staying in Mumbai, they are anxious about their children's health and their financial insecurities.
2. An old man who was working as a security guard lost his job and became anxious about his livelihood.

• COVID Effects on Children: 

1. The children below age 8, were happy that they can stay home and play with their parents and watch cartoon networks the whole day.
2. Students of  10th & 10+2 were worried about careers later and parents are anxious about what will they do later
3. Fresh pass-out graduates do not know what to do later. 

   The above people's concerns are too many like confinement, loneliness, financial problems and stress are the factors that are driving to suicide and suicidal thoughts.

Among the total suicides, 14% were from Telanagana, As per NCRB's report. 

You can take help from the professionals and social workers and also from the National Institute of Mental Health & Neuro Science(NIMHANS), Help age India, Roshini Helpline for suicide prevention.

The above are working together to prevent suicides, those who are seeking help from depression, as per a survey there was an increase in 15% of suicidal thoughts in this pandemic. only 40 % of calls were from AP & Telangana.

Among them, 20% were due to financial problems, domestic issues, unemployment, relationship problems.

financial issues were due to non-payment of EMI's, children's school fees, house rents, shop rents, and household items.  

The basic major reason is due to loneliness. To overcome it consult professionals, suicide helpline centers, yoga for a sedentary lifestyle.

video of yoga for prevention sucidal thoughts in the intial stage by sadhguru from youtube

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the new life style for healthy heart by yoga asanas

Introduction

Heart is the most important organ of our body. Thirty percent of all deaths in the world are heart related issues.  While medical science has its own prescription for preventing or curing heart diseases. yoga provides an excellent preventive lifestyle.

Mind - Heart relation

Stress is not the enemy of heart. stress is identified as main problem for heart diseases .Stress is a result of speed of thought in the mind and negative emotions. Yoga is a technique, for slowing down speed of the mind.  it makes it quieter and more focused. Yoga benefit to body comes through mind improvement. Patanjali definition of yoga is 'yogaschit vriti nirodhah' - controlling modification of mind is yoga. Vashishta said 'manasah prashamansya upayah' -yoga is a technique of making the mind quite.

Healthy Eating

Common heart diseases are caused due to high cholesterol, obesity and diabetes. Therefore, it is important to consume a balanced diet. The diet should consist of 'heart-healthy' foods such as green leafy vegetables, whole grains, fatty fish and fish oils, healthy nuts like almonds, legumes like lentils, and fruits, among others. Consume foods that soothe your taste buds, as long as 80 to 90 per cent of what is on your plate comes from a plant or a grain. Don't give into the temptation to consume oily, sugary and junk food items, especially after the age of 40.

Stress management

Heart is associated with cleaning and pumping fresh blood in to the body. Blood gets purified by oxygen and oxygen enter blood  by prana. Pranayama is part of yoga. it is a very useful technique for regularizing flow of breath in to the body. it helps our blood, heart and thoughts cleaning process. This techniques of yoga are called kriyas. such as kapalbhati, for people who have been screened for heart related issues.which is also useful in detoxifying our lungs but under proper guidance. That improves supply of oxygen too. 

Yoga - pranayama

Heart is more then an organ, it signifies emotions. When someone is in love, he feels it in his heart. when someone love fails, he says his heart is broken. Love comes with a set of other emotions. such as care , concern for the beloved and devotion, loyalty, trust, happiness,surrender towards the person . These emotions are part of bhakti yoga. Bhakti yoga promotes true love. the trust in the justice system of god and having unconditional loving relationship with god is bhakti yoga. It makes us secure . It reduces stress.
Heart is also associated with compassion. When we say , i have a heart, it means being compassionate and  having mercy . Compassion to all is a divine quality. It comes from the heart. And it fills heart with good feelings.  When we have enjoyed something thoroughly.  we say I had a heartful of music today.

Significance of Yoga pranayama

This signifies contentment one of the prescriptions of ashtanga yoga.Heart signifies courage , too. We say this all the time - someone who shows courage is called  a brave-heart.Courage comes from strong will power . It comes from understanding the reality of who I am. When one knows self to be an indestructible. so ever present entity, and not mere body mind complex,  one gets real to do big things.  This knowledge of self comes from jnana yoga, logical understanding of who I am, through study of vedanta.

Yoga for heart

yoga means asana and pranayama. its a way of  life for healthy heart.
Asana, Pranayama and meditation have to be a part of one's daily routine. But in addition to this, one has to  understand and follow principles of karma yoga, bhaktiyoga and jnana yoga.
karma yoga is carrying on duty of life without selfishness,  carelessness and ego.  Having trusting relationship with creator is bhakti yoga.  And daily study of scriptures,  good literature to understand who I am is a part of jnana yoga. Adopting these practices is to live a yoga way of life.

Regular Screening

Regular screening is essential for monitoring overall health. This becomes While the life expectancy has increased over time, it is worthwhile only when it's disease free. The fundamental focus should be on right living, and the approach to healthcare and wellness should be based on this principle.
for further more information on yoga for health click the below link
https://www.yogajournal.com/poses/contraindications-modifications/heart-problems

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School board exams acadhemics last day – new life ahead

Children and their parents are on the  verge of  life. due to The final countdown of exams. as it  starts in the month of march.

EXAMS FEAR

Normally at the end of the academic year, there  is a rise in the anxiety & stress levels of  parents. It is directly transferred to children. Due to this there is increase of grades in child’s academics. there is  directive stress upon parents,teachers  and school  managements & indirect stress upon students. Now a days the  education system has become so  competitive.  they are directed  towards  a  specific goal  i.e., grades . but the holistic  development  of the  child is neglected. Both  parents and children have  witnessed   many exams. but they feel that  board exams are more important and different .  This hype  was created by  both parents & teachers. The  children are continuously  programmed day  by day that they are preparing for board exams. They are  made to fear exams. They are taken special care.  The only  difference  is that they are held  in other school. So their is no  need for student  to panic  and  they  should  stick to   normal  routine. They used to follow  everyday.

FROM WHERE DOES THIS EXAMS STRESS COME

Pressure for getting good grades.

High expectations of parents.

competitiveness.

Comparison with others.

fear of rejection.

Fear of being ridiculed by parents,teachers, relatives,friends.

STUDY TIPS

The children should have a proper schedule for effective reading of different subjects.

Students should divide their time for each subject.

Students should prepare for the last exam first and the first exam on the last day.

For studying,early morning hours are the best time for revision as retention is better and the Body and mind are fresh.

Note taking is the most effective method because we can retain the subject and used to grasp whole syllabus in less time.

Solving previous year question papers, which can depict there ability to face the exam with out fear and it can also be used as systematic desensitization technique.

Normally used to overcome fear and stress of exam in psychological aspects.

It is used to increase their speed and accuracy.

Parents play an important role in their child’s success.

They should be supportive and encouraging.

It helps students develop self confidence and self discipline.

By which they have a sense of achievement, in long run.

Then the students can reach all the goals in academics and life.

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Assessment of children for exams

Tune your neurons of mind to beat the final exam stress. We, along with a group of Gynan Kunj educational society members, have visited the school. The school name is Telangana  State Minority Residential School. Bhagyamathi,Hayathnagar,RangaReddy. To know the stress levels of children by a psychometric questionnaire on 18th March 2016. We reached the school early morning at 8 o clock. By then, the students of class 10th were in the digital classroom.

First, we introduced ourselves to the students. Then we had an ice-breaking session. To build up the firm rapport with children. Later, they were explained about the questionnaire. which will be used to assess their performance levels in the coming final exam. There were 32 students present in the hall. The children were given the questionnaire to assess exam stress. for assessment of factors present in us. It has been divided into 3 sub-categories. The below table indicates the results obtained by the children.

TEST RESULTS

I. PHYSIOLOGICAL PROBLEMS :-

category	More problems.	Medium problems.	less problems
No. of students	0	12	20

II.PSYCHOLOGICAL  PROBLEM'S :-

category	More stress.	Medium stress.	less  stress.
No.of  student's	0	13	19

III. OTHER FACTORS :-

category	Bad home atmosphere.	Good home atmosphere.	Favorable exam atmosphere.
No.of  student's	0	10	22

In each category, we have 5 questions. The child has to tick either of the answers given in the questionnaire, which strikes first at his thought. We can improve the strength, weakness and capabilities of children based on the answers given.

Neurons can be conditioned

Learning is the formation of conditioned reflexes. So controlled learning is conditioned learning. Conditioned learning is also accompanied by a generalization of experiences. we can tune our neurons towards the betterment of the neural networks in our brain. It can keep pressures under control and use them in the proper direction. for the attainment of the future goals. The above process is used for the assessment of children & their stress level to handle the pressure of the final exam.

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examination final countdown run children run

There is an unfortunate trend prevailing now a days in our education system. Each teachers or parents wants children to be Super Kids. who can perform multi-tasking like scoring highest marks,performing well in sports,singing ,dancing and many others.so due to this reasons examination phobia arises. Among some of the teachers and parents point examinations as great trials. This abnormal approach generates great tension in the minds of children. leading to nervousness, anxiety, lack of appetite, empty stomach, and poor performance in the examination. Even parents also take a lot of tension during their kids exams.they are prone to nervousness,anxiety .

The reason for the above is the corporate culture ,High expectation from our near and dear people. To overcome the above situation,the children should prepare systematically with total dedication and face examination with confidence. they should not worry about the results while they are writing the answers.

Exams phobia is due to the pressure on them. Now a days parents are pressuring the kids to get very high marks and insisting upon them to stand first in class. More over some kids are also afraid of exams because they are not well prepared for the test and they lack confidence. So parents to remove fear from them should first find out the basic problem and then try to tackle it accordingly by boosting up their confidence levels.

Exam phobia is a normal feeling that a child has while appearing for the exam. It is the fear of failure.in such case you as a parent/teacher should counsel kids by saying that the failure mean delay not defeat.so we should remember what ever we read and write it in the appropriate given time and if they score lesser marks.they will be having another set of exams in which they can score higher marks.

By saying this kind of words support kids in preparing for the examination. by helping her in studying and make her feel comfortable .if she is not in a position to learn anything while preparing for the exams. Sometimes difficult lessons or subject keeps them awake the whole night and the result is a failure .so  anxiety level increase which may lead to depression.  always be with them. Encourage them by saying life is a challenge, be a learner.

To get rid of Exam phobia .expose them directly to to the cause i.e, assure them with love that the sky is not going to fall if they fail.Assure her even if she submits a blank paper that you are not going to be annoyed or punish them.Parents should not intimidate the children in any form. Once they tastes the sweetness in success no one can stop them. You as the parent/teacher should be prepared for the worst until they gains their normal self. try it.

Good luck.

examination fear

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how to cope with valentines day addiction,do not blame

love is the most effective coping mechanism. to balance  the pain of one’s loneliness. the people make false statements because they mistake common causes of  pseudo-love with rare genuine love. unlike friendship, one is dependent on the relation for a sense of well being and balance. any disturbance  to the integrity of the relation may be experienced with great anxiety and distress.

the people have become so mechanically, that they turn the situation favorable to them. like getting into relationship or breakup on valentines day. valentine day is the  most costliest day around the world. people express their affection by giving different gifts to their loved ones. the word love was divine, infinite, eternal. but now it has changed peoples thinking a lot.but now love towards people has transformed  into a feeling of being loved.

Types of love

only consummate love is to satisfy their sexual needs.addiction  towards this type of relation is alive  in the beginning. but later the sense that people we care about are not really listening. we never out grow the need to have our feelings known. talking without listening is like lighting up a lamp without power.

Present scenario

modern culture has developed new ideas of love .addiction  to keep the relation  alive in  the beginning.  unfortunately when we fail to get through to each other,  we  have  a  tendency to fall back on blaming. its his fault to not understand and accept the feelings  of a  person.  the safer she feels to go deeper into the issues. the mechanical and repetitive   feelings of  some complaints   come partly from the fact they rarely get  a sympathetic  hearing.  loving is a the greatest  gift you can   give to help soothe a persons feeling.

i have seen one of the person who communicates their message in such a manner. that the anger and upset of the opposite  listener become so anxious . that he or she does not remember the content he spoke.

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